Inspired by Joe Rogan’s ‘Sober October’ event, which is becoming yearly and slightly more sophisticated, I’ve followed along with great interest and wanted to continue with a second month of self-reflection. Joe Rogan is doing a workout challenge between friends to get them all into shape and sacrifice vices for the month, whereas mine began with some vices (on top of the fact I don’t really drink or smoke) and eliminating bad habits, now it’s about expanding on what I’ve kept doing since last November’s efforts, and adding to them.
My efforts are therefore cumulative.
So this year, I won’t be saying no to thirty things again like last year (30 days, 30 things), and instead saying “no” in various ways by wrapping up my self-imposed challenges into groups and theming them. Attempting it this year feels smaller in scale, but it’s actually adding to what I’ve done, enabling me to climb higher and stay on track with a more positive and meaningful lifestyle and set of choices.
So to begin with what can seem cheesy but i’m going to type it anyway, because I want to be upfront, let’s say no to negativity. For that I’m:
Not choosing the emotional route that leads to less anger (1), the daily events brought to me for example by commuting certainly make me look up at the MTR ceiling in frustration, I’m going to try and do away with that. Commuting is most definitely the most stressful part of my job. I’m also going to make no negative assumptions (2), I’ll just make an effort to ask and enquire to make sure (it’s not like I do this all the time but it’s useful to raise the skill level on that aspect of my character).
Something that really grinds me down are Twitter or Reddit comments that are misinterpreted and then getting sucked into explaining in text form which has further potential to be misunderstood or pointlessly argued because we’re all interpreting the tone of one’s texts. I’m simply not replying to anyone on the Internet via text (3), thereby cutting my engagement time with the related apps also.
Just this week for example, Jonathan Morrison (no relation) put out a video showing how people can’t tell the difference between an iPhone Xr screen and another screen that was on a technical level “better”. This video is in reaction to many people (measurebators) complaining about the low quality screen in the iPhone Xr. Turns out in a blind test everybody opted for the Xr screen because many other qualities matter beyond owning a 1080p screen. Check out the video here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcFXEXJicgc
I’ll admit I replied to a few people on Reddit regarding this issue, but I consider that time first of all, wasted and second, those I’m replying too are full of shit so why am I bothering? (Though honestly, my point was that I didn’t care about the quality of the screen as the tech is the same as every other iPhone since the iPhone 4 and I’ve never had a problem prior, why should I worry now, especially as it’s so subjective).
To piggy back off not replying, I’m also going to concentrate more on reading (4). Last year I culled who I followed on Twitter and attempted to remove as much news from America as possible and not get caught up in the now of current events which I consider for the most part, a waste of time and events unfold and most opinions in the moment are reactionary, instead of informed. I’m aware reflection and long form is more important, so this year I’m refining how I expose myself on social media and considering my own thoughts more. *You can also see I’m lumping a few things together to achieve this, I don’t really want to create a list of ‘do nots’ this year.
This brings me back to focus, it’s something I’m always trying to hone in on. I want to remove all lack of focus for the month and try to build and sustain this habit beyond just November. “A good habit is just as easy to keep around as a bad one” as my lecturer used to say. Saying, “I’ll do X for 1 hour a day”, is really simple and powerful, because its *just an hour* and overall I’m devoting 30 hours over the entire month!
These are the things I want to break down into chunks to end up in a better place than next month.
An hour a day of exercise (5).
Stop using electronic devices an hour before bedtime (In this case, I’ve lost an hour which is good!) (6).
At least 1 hour of video editing (7).
One hour of going to bed early, my new bedtime is 9pm (8).
At least 5 minutes of meditation and stretching each day (9).
There are two more things which are very personal and that involves someone I love, to be more mindful towards her and rein myself in: First, don’t say no to Rea (10), and the second is to show her how much I appreciate her for the next 30 days (11).
This whole challenge isn’t just about making me better immediately on the inward, but also on the outward.
So there we have it, 11 things to bring me forward this year into the next. I did put a call out on Periscope to see if others would want to join in. The response to my efforts were few, but those few that did respond hopefully will see through whatever they want to do for the month and I hope they get back with me in December.