Saying No to 30 things for 30 days. #NoinNovember

As with many things do, they dawn on me late or at the last minute. One idea I have is to effectively go cold turkey with the 30 things I've listed below. I'm not doing this because of some serious drama, I'm doing it because I can and I have some self-awareness that I am am focusing my energy in one place and not the other.

I'm also trying to hold myself to a standard, where I practice what I preach and when I use to talk to people about trying Paleo for 30 days, I would say, it's just 30 days. How hard can it be?

I feel I need to remind myself what 30 days of introducing a change feels like.

Surprisingly some people on Periscope feel I should live a little, but this 30 day restriction of things, has come about because I have 'lived a little'.

I'm someone already with a high degree of will power, its partly the reason why I never really have any destructive vices like smoking or drinking. I know they aren't for me, but also if you're studying the list, you notice I make no attempt to put a stop to my alcoholism or chain smoking; because there isn't any!

Modern life has a way of letting little things get inside your way of living, enhancing some aspects of life to an unnatural level and it slowly takes over, some good some bad, I want to take control a bit better of what I do on a day to day basis.

"Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own". - Bruce Lee

Below is the list of 30 things to say NO to in NOvember.

No...

  • to drinking coffee - i'm not addicted to coffee, but it falls in line with wanting to save some money, I think I spend $20 US dollars a month (£16). I'll switch to tea anyway.
  • to eating carbs - ever since coming back from my month holiday I have been eating more carbs, I want to stop eating bread again.
  • to sleeping after 10pm - this is something else I've fallen off the wagon on, I use to be pretty strict about this, no not so much, sleeping late isn't good for you and I want to get back into a routine where I can enjoy my mornings more than my nights.
  • to eating sugar - no ice cream basically!
  • to shaving - probably the only short term fun one to be had here aside from (13)
  • to gaming unless on the MTR - I catch myself sneaking in a quick play here and there when I could be doing something else. It's not good to just go cold turkey on something because most people will fail at doing it, I'm just promising to restrict myself to playing while I'm commuting.
  • to missing the gym (12 sessions in the month) - I need to get my ass back in the gym.
  • to not creating a schedule - a proper schedule will allow me to fit my life changes in*.
  • to spending any money unless it is transport or food related - I want to see how much I can save for the month, there is a new iMac I desire after all.
  • to adding of articles, you need less at the end of November - this one is a trickier one and something some people probably never think about, but its an important one because its saying something about my consumption habits. Whenever I scroll on a timeline and I see something I think I might enjoy reading I'll give it a like so as to bookmark it. The next time I jump on twitter say, instead of going to take the time to read said article I saved, I actually keep looking on my updated timeline for more interesting articles to read. Why do I do that? Have you realised you do this also. It's the reward of something more or needing to be kept up with the new, in the now. I have saved a number of things on various timelines that I should get through or dismiss by the end of the month; making sure I have fewer things 'liked' by the end of November. 
  • to porn - this is an attempt to desensitise myself to an extreme form of lust on my part, racket things down.
  • to masturbation, only sex - this is the same as the previous one, sometimes a person can favour a form of pleasure over another. Don't misunderstand, I'm not pounding the meat to an extreme level (what is extreme if you know you should stop though?).
  • to saying no to things (especially to Rea) - I say no to Rea a lot, I'm making an attempt at making up for it. This one is for you Rea x.
  • to Facebook for the whole month - why not, fuck that website.

These next five are attempts at limiting my ability to be in the now, I don't need to text someone straight away, I don't need to read what's salient now always. It can actually wait.

  • (1) to Twitter for no longer than 30 minutes on desktop, - delete ios app (per day)
  • (2) to whatsapp on my phone (I have it on my computer, but I'm not on my computer all the time)
  • (3) to Reddit for no longer than 30 minutes on desktop - delete ios app (per day)
  • (4) to Facebook messenger - delete ios app for the month (I don't have the official Facebook app on my phones anyway)
  • (5) to Dating apps - I talk a lot to a lot of people, I'm putting a stop to that for the month.
  • to swearing - I do swear a lot, nobody has complained, but I like to do it from time to time.
  • to eating out unless Saturday (because of schedule) - I have caught myself taking the easy road out when preparing meals, again its a chance to save some money, because iMac.
  • to less than 4 swim sessions in the month - need to start swimming again, my cardio is shit.
  • to using the phone when walking - I catch myself doing this while being critical of others, its a bad habit, that needs to stop.
  • to buying of plastic bottles - we live in a world of convenience, it's easy to forgot how much waste we produce at an individual level.
  • less than 5 mins of meditation for five mins a day - this is something I've wanted to do for a while, now is a good chance starting tomorrow, same goes for the next one.
  • less than 5 mins of stretching every day
  • going without a day telling Rea I love her - I don't find it hard to say 'I love you' to Rea. But isn't it nice to go through that process?
  • less than 4 Mandarin classes in November - I said I wanted to learn Mandarin, now is the time to do it again.
  • effort spared in trying to write down my dreams - this one was suggested to me, I use to do this when I was younger (in fact the last 6 were suggested to me so thanks to those that helped)
  • electrical products after 9pm - turn my brain off before sleeping, electrical devices have a habit of exciting the brain to an unnatural high with the dopamine kicks one gets from receiving messages and what not. My brain needs chill time.

*I'm thinking long term, how many of these changes can I keep once the 30 days are up, that's what I'm looking forward to. I am able to get pleasure from the long term payoff.

That aside, I'm not asking anyone to join me on doing this, I'm partly inspired by Joe Rogan's recent move to give up weed and commit himself to certain acts alongside his friends who are also giving up or putting effort into something else. I liked what he did and thought what's stopping me? Nothing.

 

FAQ: About Donating to my Periscope Channel @JonathanJK.

There has been some criticism towards on desire to ask people to donate to my channel in order toe receive private scopes and be allowed access in Limited Broadcast scopes. I present here an FAQ on the topic so this doesn't become something I have to repeat over and over again. It also sheds light on what I want to do. If you don't want to read, you can also watch a video version here.

If you do want to donate you can donate via Patreon (I work with PayPal btw).

Questions from other members of the Periscope community are included for reference.

How much do I need to pay to get access to private scopes or limited chat broadcasts?

I have now introduced tiers, currently they are at $2 and $5, both offering different things. Newer tiers will be introduced at a later time. I tend to grandfather people in as well so the earlier someone contributes the more value they get for donating.

Since this is about me, what do I get?

Those who contribute at the $6 tier get:

  1. Private Coffee Time (private scopes generally [mostly coffee time scopes] are not saved or put on Youtube, I will say otherwise at the beginning of a private scope)
  2. A Troll/Heckler free zone.
  3. A less busier scope (which is a good thing if you want to engage with others).
  4. Access to chat in limited broadcast scopes, typically #scopechat scopes.
  5. A chance to chat with other big name Periscopers from around the world who decide to frequent the scope.
  6. I'll probably end up watching your scopes if I have the time.
  7. Early access to new guests where you can chat directly via Periscope (Public access requires submitting questions via Twitter).
  8. Heads up on any special scopes I have lined up. You can also contribute to the discussion.
  9. You're party to various other topics I don't share publically.
  10. I sketch in private scopes.

A $2 donation is different, check the Patreon page please.

Err, Jonathan, what about the 100 person chat limit for those paying?

Yes, that is interesting and is another issue. These donations I receive (with the ability to get access to the extras I just mentioned) will be limited. First come first served I guess.

Are these limited chats just for interview scopes? @technicolordreams

Currently this is just for my interview/#scopechat scopes. Interview scopes are usually only twice a month.

Will you lose viewers if you limit the chat? @SummerNorthbay

I probably will, but the quality comments from paid viewers will go up. If people are upset over this, they are basically saying their ability to comment is more important than anything I'm trying to do.

Don't you have a sense of humour?

You wouldn't ask that question if you knew me.

I disagree about limiting chats, you will lose. @SummerNorthbay

You are allowed to disagree. Time will tell. So far so good.

Your interview scopes will be dead. @jtchang

Your opinion versus my statistics tell a different story. Either way I have created a pristine piece of video (that will go on Youtube) and that is more important to my reputation in the long term.

Don't you think it is horrible? (referring to not being able to comment) @jtchang

Not as horrible if there are disgusting/stupid or pointless comments made in my scopes. Scopes which are supposed to represent my abilities to new people. Which is more important, your ability to comment or my ability to bring new people to my channel?

Delete the trolls and the sex bots then?@Classicallymish

Deleting trolls takes time. Deleting sex bots is something Periscope can do to save me time. This is about further managing my time and my Periscope channel looking professional to bring new people to the channel. Do I want to block people for the rest of my life while using Periscope? No.

This sounds like censorship. @hanseoulo

This is not censorship, do not conflate what is happening here with true censorship. If people want to comment they can use the share function inside the periscope app. Comments are not being removed they are being moved for those who do not want to contribute. 

I am your fan but why do I feel like I am being punished? @bayshore1whe

I am sorry you feel you are being punished. I can tell you I am not punishing you deliberately, but here we are talking about how you feel and how and you have reacted to my policy to make sure I can make more professional scopes. If people want to comment they can use the share function inside the Periscope app. Comments from people who do not want to pay are not being removed they are being moved for those who do not want to contribute. Contributing is an option.

They should have Auto-block for certain words. @beckseria

They could, but then that is censorship. 

Trolls can sometimes break your concentration while you are scoping. @boston_camera

Yes trolls do break our concentration which is what I do not want to have done to me any longer. Do I want my concentration broken every day for the rest of my Periscope life?

Do we have to pay you to chat in limited chat scopes? @jtchang

If people want to comment they can use the share function inside the Periscope app. Comments are not being removed they are being moved for those who do not want to contribute. YOU DO NOT NEED TO PAY.

But don't follow me back? @Classicallymish

And?

But Jonathan you don't follow anyone so I have to pay you now? @Jdavidmcconnell

If people want to comment they can use the share function inside the periscope app. Comments are not being removed they are being moved for those who do not want to contribute. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PAY.

Just ignore the trolls and block them. @boston_camera

I do not want to block people every day inside every periscope for the rest of my periscope career. Their comments are also publicly facing and represent my ability to control my social media environment.  

I don't believe in charging money for people to follow me. @boston_camera

Okay. But that is not what is happening here. I don’t charge for follows, I am asking for DONATIONS from people who want access to private scopes and the ability to chat in limited chat scopes. For me to offer extras, perks or incentives, yes I do need to follow them. It doesn’t mean I am charging for follows.

I will miss your interview/#scopechat scopes because you don't follow me. @Classicallymish

You will not miss any scopes if you are subscribed to my channel. Notifications are still working even for limited broadcast scopes. 

If the goal of your scope is to foster discussion you just have to be vigilant about blocking trolls @camelcameras

I do not want to block people every day inside every periscope for the rest of my periscope career. Their comments are also publicly facing and represent my ability to control my social media environment  

What if the trolls pay money @Jdavidmcconnell

Then that is a stupid idea. I have them blocked and I have their money. 

Just block the trolls @simontuitea

I do not want to block people every day inside every periscope for the rest of my periscope Korea. Their comments are also publicly facing and represent my ability to control his social media environment  

People need to have the thicker skin when it comes to trolls @boston_camera

This is not about needing thicker skin. I do not want to go through the motions of blocking people every day, inside every periscope for the rest of my periscope career.

Let me get this straight, you want a troll free internet experience? @hanseoulo

Let me tell you straight. I cannot have a troll free internet experience. This is not possible (it is if I limited ALL my scopes, but I am not doing that). You are being obtuse if you think otherwise.

It's a part of life. You can't you can't live in a bubble @boston_camera

I am not trying to live in a bubble, you can troll me via Twitter if you want from the share sheet in Periscope.

We can still watch the interviews, just not comment right? Kchoi

At the moment just the interview scopes. Only those who have contributed to the channel can comment during an interview/#scopechat, anybody else needs to send the comments to Twitter. I do read my Twitter while periscoping live. You can also comment on the video on Youtube.

Follow me so I can comment. 

No. Asking for a follow is just rude on various levels.

There was no one watching your restricted #scopechat. @jtchang1201

This is your opinion versus my statistics. You’re also thinking of the now, I’m thinking of the replay viewers who can’t comment anyway (they don’t complain) and the Youtube views.

I don't want to pay to see anyone on a free app. @boston_camera

You do not need to pay to comment. If people want to comment they can use the share function inside the Periscope app. Comments are not being removed they are being moved for those who do not want to contribute. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PAY.

Let’s change what you said slightly and see if it makes sense - 

I also do not want to pay for photography that I see on a free app like Instagram.

I also do not want to buy services from Amazon that I see from a free web browser.

I do not want to buy music I hear on a free radio service.

Some trolls will pay to troll. @hanseoulo

Then that is a stupid idea. I have them blocked and I have their money. 

Periscope is about interaction. If you charge for interaction, it misses the point in my opinion. @Jdavidmcconnell

It's actually serves the point. The level and quality of the interaction will go up. People can also follow a chat history that isn't as busy, I would argue it's a better experience.

I wish Periscope can give a broadcaster a way to turn on and off the limited chat during a broadcast. @akidesir

This technology would be very helpful. This technology would also upset other people. This technology still only works after an irresponsible comment has been made by the way. It doesn’t solve my problem of ‘scrubbing’ comments off a piece of work (digital video).

Why are you taking responsibility for someone else's actions. @ladderman421

It is my channel and it represents me and my ambitions. Imagine I run a car dealership and anonymous people passing by threw eggs on the cars I'm trying to sell. Do I take responsibity for cleaning those cars if I want to sell them?

It's probably good to give your guests a heads up about the comments. @ames_do

I shouldn’t want to be in a position where I invite people to Periscope and then give them a warning beforehand for the kinds of cruel comments they might encounter.

I would say those who want to make money on Periscope should get a job @boston_camera

These two things are not mutually exclusive I have a job a full-time job and I Periscope. Why am I not allowed to make money on Periscope or any other social media? I'd go further and also ask why can't Periscope be a full time job?

I scope and work full-time @boston_camera

Hello so do I. What is your point?

I do understand the problem I think you could do it for interview scopes, but leave the other scopes open. @jdavidmcconnell

At the moment only the interview scopes will be limited chat.

On limited scopes people can tweet questions so not a total block for people @judithkenosha

Yes in limited scopes people can still tweet questions inside the Periscope app.

This is just for JonathanJK to make a few bucks @jtchang1201

This is what is happening, but this originally wasn’t the purpose. It is about creating value (for you and for me) and removing people who do not recognise value and want to deface a piece of work or upset people live. 

Can somebody scope without comments @djwhite

Yes somebody can scope without comments, but then that is like TV. I acknowledge Periscope is not TV. People however need to acknowledge that they don't always need to comment. If people want to comment they can use the share function inside the Periscope app. 

It sounds like you're saying you just want to be considerate and hospital to your interview guests. @blockofwood

Exactly.

I don't really watch interviews anyway so whatever @jtchang1201

So this will not affect you. 

I follow all of you Hong Kong guys I can't pay for all of you. @jdavidmcconnell

If people want to comment they can use the share function inside the Periscope app. Comments are not being removed they are being moved for those who do not want to contribute. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PAY. Watching is still free to do except for private scopes.

I grew up in an environment where the ball busting is normal @boston_camera

I would like to add ball busting and trolling/heckling are two different things. Don’t try to equate the two together.

Realise that trolls sometimes are bored teenagers and you shouldn't give it so much weight @mtendstotravel

I do realise that trolls are sometimes bored teenagers, but their effects live beyond their presence in the scope.

I know how much you are earning I can see on Patreon. 

Yeah. I am not hiding this information. I wonder why.

Encourage your viewers to block and not wait for you to block. @mtendstotravel

It doesn't matter if other people block a troll or a heckler, I have to block them myself and the comments still show up on replays. 

Can you not report to the Periscope people? @ithinkimsean

So besides blocking people I now have to go and report them? This takes up EVEN more of my time. People who do not broadcast daily do not realise how repetitive these simple actions become.

So are you going to unfollow those who don't pay? @jtchang1201

No I also follow people who I think contribute to Periscope as well. This is my decision, MY subjective decision. The upside to this is some of the more famous Periscopers will frequent my private scopes. There’s value there for you as well since it’s more likely you can engage with them. Anybody I follow who hasn't paid is being followed because I find them entertaining or they have contributed in another way other than with money.

Yes when you open yourself up to the public you have to deal with criticism. @boston_camera

Criticism is valid as long as it is constructive. Trolling isn't. 

If you ignore them then they go away when they don't get any attention. @boston_camera

While I agree in principle, there would still be many comments imprinted on my videos which can mean that they are illustrating my ability to control my social media. 

Periscope is designed to allow comments on the stream, some businesses should use a different medium then. @jdavidmcconnell

The flaw is not the technology, the flaw is with people’s misuse of said technology.

That's a reflection of your customer service strategy. How are you manage your social media. @serenaLyn

Yes it is. It makes for a better periscope channel.